Book Summary
Status Anxiety – Alain De Botton
This is a vast text, that I've summarised in 2 parts... causes and solutions.
Alain defines “status anxiety” as “a worry, so pernicious as to be capable of ruining extended periods of our lives, that we are in danger of failing to conform to the ideals of success laid down by our society and that we may as a result be stripped of dignity and respect”.
This modern anxiety can lead to success, can encourage excellence, restrain us from harmful eccentricities and bring us together as a society bound by common values.
But it also leads without exception, Alain argues, to sorrow.
CAUSES
1. Lovelessness
Once food and shelter have been acquired, we strive for money, fame or influence, simply put, the desire to be loved.
Love, in respect to status (not romantic love) is a sign of respect and a sensitivity towards someone else’s existence.
Those with status are described as “somebodies”, those without are “nobodies”. This is not true as we are all individuals with individual needs – it’s more a description of the quality of treatment afforded towards those people by others.
We are afflicted with a congenital uncertainty as to our own value. The way others view us often forms our whole perception of our being – our identity.
Our status denotes how much “love” we are offered by others, and in turn we can like, or lose confidence in ourselves.
2. Snobbery
We are forced, as we take our place in life, to live amongst snobs, people who’s opinions are highly conditional.
Snobs are defined as those who take offence at the lack of status of others, they insist loudly on a scale of values defined by society or parts thereof (often by others they view as being influential). They judge others by a narrow set of criteria, ignoring other, deeper beneficial characteristics.
Often this snobbishness is born from the fear of losing one’s own status. Belittling others draws attention to the status acquired by the belittler. Obtaining symbols of status allows the owner to lord it over those who have not.
3. Expectation and Envy
The rapid acquirement of wealth by the Western World during the 19th and 20th centuries, meant that in many people’s lifetimes they became able to obtain material possessions and technological gizmos previously reserved for the privileged only (e.g. the latest fashions, cars, travel etc).
With this increase in material ownership came increased “equality”. This then increased expectation – anything could be within the grasps of the many, leading to an increase in envy.
We judge ourselves by comparing ourselves to those that we consider our peers. If someone in our peer group obtains more than us (stature or material) then we feel inferior, even though in real terms we haven’t changed at all.
In medieval times we had a vivid idea of our position in society. In modern times, the possibilities afforded to us are (as proven to us by others) nearly limitless. Our self-esteem depends on what we back ourselves to be.
A rise in the levels of our expectations comes with a rise in the danger of humiliation (e.g. the fallen politician or the once famous actor).
We have grown to believe success and material will bring us happiness, if so, how is it that primitive tribes are happy? The answer is that we are happy when we expect little and miserable when we expect everything – as modern life has taught us to be.
The result is that we live in perpetual anxiety that we are far from being all we might be.
4. Meritocracy
The impact of poverty on self esteem is dependent on how that poverty is regarded by the community. The consideration of poverty in western society has become considerably more punitive and judgemental over time. In feudal society, the poor were considered to not be responsible for their position and were regarded as extremely useful to society as a whole. Also, when religion had more of a hold on society, a poor status was seen to hold no moral connotations, whereas the rich were often regarded as sinful and corrupt (see Jean-Jacques Rousseau, Discourse on the origins of inequality, 1754).
Karl Marx insisted that the employer, in endeavouring to employ others and pay them as little as possible in order to make a profit was little more than a thief. Conditions for the working class at the time of the industrial revolution confirmed this view-point to many.
As the 18th Century grew to a close, another set of view-points were growing in general public perception – the rich became to be seen as the more useful to society, they were the ones who provided employment for the less fortunate, helping them to survive. Adam Smith in Wealth of Nations, wrote that the fabric of society depended upon those who were best at accumulating wealth by industry.
Industrial growth had begun to change societies outlook upon those less able to acquire this wealth.
As education became more readily available for the masses, it came to be regarded that poorer people must have become that way because they are less able or intelligent than others. The increase in equality had lead to an increase in disregard for those who do not excel or succeed in some way.
5 Dependence
The main drive of modern society has been to allow as greater a meritocracy as possible.
The main feature of this society is uncertainty – we contemplate the future in the knowledge that we might be thwarted by colleagues or competitors, we may find we lack the talents to succeed in areas we want to or find ourselves unlucky in the face of an unpredictable marketplace. Failures are compounded by the success of peers.
Anxiety follows modern ambition as it depends on 5 unpredictable elements:
1. Dependence on fickle talent
a. Which can (and often does) come and go
2. Dependence on luck
a. Or favourable conditions that allow our careers / lives to take a turn for the better.
b. In our modern rational society, luck is rarely allowed as an excuse for success or failure. Even though it clearly is necessary at some point.
3. Dependence on an employer
a. In the past, most people worked for themselves. In modern society, most people work for other people. This forces them to lose control of a large part of their destiny.
b. Hand in hand with this comes several other perceived dependencies;
i. The need to lie and exaggerate “the world more often rewards signs of merit than merit itself” La Rochefoucald
ii. The need to beware of colleagues
iii. The need to threaten “It is much safer to be feared than be loved.” Machiavelli
4. Dependence on employer’s profitability
a. The most effective way for employers to lower costs in times of trouble is to cull staff.
b. We are often held ransom to market conditions or bad decisions that we have no control over.
5. Dependence on the global economy
a. Economies are characterised by growth and decline, we are so clearly unable to control this that anxiety is the only reasonable response beyond complete apathy.
b. Economics will always prevail over human needs in our commercial world. As tools in the process, workers are destined to a life of anxiety.
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